True Love?
Dear Reply Guy:
Me and my boyfriend have been together for over 4 years and we just recently broke up. he was my first real relationship and we have a kid together. we've had our ups and downs but lately seems like more downs then ever. deep down i know we are meant to be but he sees things differently. i have trust issues with him because of the stuff he did to me in the past but i forgave him for all of that and he still cant see how much i love him. everytime we argue its like he talks and i listen then when its my turn i get shut down. i always feel like everything is my fault because i wasnt being a good enough girlfriend even if deep down i know i was.
all i wanted was a little attention and its so hard for him to give it to me because of school and work. im tired of trying to work things out because he just doesn't seem to get it. he thinks im infatuated with him but I think its true love. what do you think? how do i put my feelings aside and gain the stength to get up and never look back? also do you think we should get back together or do you think i am holding on to something that isnt really there?
Signed: Confused
Dear Confused,
Since you stated in your letter that you have already split with this guy I think now is the perfect time for you to attempt to let things be as they may. The biggest problem I can see is the difference of opinion between you two about how this relationship should be played out. It appears from your point of view you want an honest, caring, loving relationship, but he does not seem very interested in such a deal. In fact, you even state that he does not feel you are "meant" to be together. That statement alone should give you a clue about how he feels about you.
No matter how hard we try and force antoher person to jump on board with our idea of how life should be played, if they refuse to willingly come aboard for the ride, there is little you can do to make it happen. I would suggest that you focus your energy on raising your child the best you can and make sure to include your ex-boyfriend in your childs life. Just because you two did not work out in the romance department does not mean he cannot still be a quality father to his child.
Good Luck,
The Reply Guy
Me and my boyfriend have been together for over 4 years and we just recently broke up. he was my first real relationship and we have a kid together. we've had our ups and downs but lately seems like more downs then ever. deep down i know we are meant to be but he sees things differently. i have trust issues with him because of the stuff he did to me in the past but i forgave him for all of that and he still cant see how much i love him. everytime we argue its like he talks and i listen then when its my turn i get shut down. i always feel like everything is my fault because i wasnt being a good enough girlfriend even if deep down i know i was.
all i wanted was a little attention and its so hard for him to give it to me because of school and work. im tired of trying to work things out because he just doesn't seem to get it. he thinks im infatuated with him but I think its true love. what do you think? how do i put my feelings aside and gain the stength to get up and never look back? also do you think we should get back together or do you think i am holding on to something that isnt really there?
Signed: Confused
Dear Confused,
Since you stated in your letter that you have already split with this guy I think now is the perfect time for you to attempt to let things be as they may. The biggest problem I can see is the difference of opinion between you two about how this relationship should be played out. It appears from your point of view you want an honest, caring, loving relationship, but he does not seem very interested in such a deal. In fact, you even state that he does not feel you are "meant" to be together. That statement alone should give you a clue about how he feels about you.
No matter how hard we try and force antoher person to jump on board with our idea of how life should be played, if they refuse to willingly come aboard for the ride, there is little you can do to make it happen. I would suggest that you focus your energy on raising your child the best you can and make sure to include your ex-boyfriend in your childs life. Just because you two did not work out in the romance department does not mean he cannot still be a quality father to his child.
Good Luck,
The Reply Guy
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