The Reply Guy Has Finally Arrived!

Greetings from the Reply Guy,

I have created this website to try and help alleviate some of the stress that goes along with our numerous relationships that we engage in day in and day out. Now, the Reply Guy is here to help answer your questions regarding anything from sex to money, or money for sex. :)

However, let me warn you, all of my replies are straight from the hip. I am a straight shooter and will not beat around the bush like so many of the so-called “experts” that are out there. If you want to know the truth, in no uncertain terms, then you have come to the right place.

Many have called me the anti Dr. Phil. I am not going to waste your time or mine spewing out garbage that never seems to apply to the “real world.” I don’t need to fill an hour of television time or hock my latest book.

This free service is provided because I believe most of the relationship guides out there are too afraid to speak their true minds due to fear of not being politically correct, or risk losing their jobs. Trust me when I tell you that you will not need to worry about political correctness with me.

If you follow my blog, or head over to my website thereplyguy.com you will probably find yourself either 1) loving my brutally honest opinions or 2) absolutely loathing my existence. Either way, you can always expect that my replies to you will be 100% honest.

I am sure you have heard the saying “the truth hurts” and sometimes it does hurt to hear things that you necessarily do not wish to hear, but please understand, none of my replies are to be mean or hurt your feelings. I am only here to provide you with something your friends, lovers, and family cannot… the truth!

Please feel free to ask me a question and we can get this blog started. When emailing me, please keep the questions vulgar free, and provide me with as much detail about the situation as possible. Your questions do not have to be romantic in nature, they can be regarding anything from friends, to your boss. You can sign your email anyway you wish, but please provide an up to date email address so we can notify you that your submission has went through.

If you don’t see your question answered here on my blog, please check out my website thereplyguy.com and take a peek to see if your question is listed there. Due to the volume of emails I receive, your email may take a few days to be posted. I always try my best to get to your questions as soon as possible.

2008!

Dear reply guy,

Does it matter if a girl asks a guy out on a date?

Signed: Wondering.

Dear Wondering,

Maybe in the 1800's it would matter if a girl were to ask a guy out. However, in today's society, it certainly does not matter if a girl asks a guy out.

You know, guys can often be very shy too. Not every guy on this great earth is a "player." If you have found a guy that you would like to go out with, go ahead and ask him out!

Good Luck,

The Reply Guy

Charge!

Dear reply guy,

I have a huge problem. My wife spends money like it is water. We both have decent jobs, but her spending is killing us. She charges on her credit card for everything, but then only makes the minimum payment each month. What can I do?
Signed: deeper in debt.

Dear Deeper in debt,

This one is easy…let her charge! I know you may be wondering how that can help, but if she wants to charge on her cards until they reach the limit, let her. Once she reaches her credit limit she will have no choice but to pay them off if she wishes to use them again.

Now, obviously this is only a band-aid for your current situation. At some point you are going to have to sit her down and show her how her overspending is causing serious strain on your finances.

Try this method out and let me know how things go. When it is time for that “sit down” shoot me an email and I will go over some ideas that you may be able to use to get her to see the light!

Good Luck,
The Reply Guy

Friend Or More?

Dear Reply Guy:

Just like everyone that's been through high school, I have this enormous crush on my best friend. I've been trying to deal with getting over him but when I finally do, he does something that makes me like him all over again.

It's difficult sometimes because everyone at my school (including his friends and mine) have told me that we're basically "meant for one other". I don't really believe in much of the non-sense but it gets me thinking. Not to mention my family agrees that he somewhat does see me that way.

When I had first told him I had feelings for him (which was back in January of last year), he had told me that he doesn't see me that way. Of course I was heart broken yet everything I've tried has gotten me no where.

About three times or so this year, I've kept on asking him if he truly just sees me as a friend and he replies "yes". I don't know exactly how to explain this, but I have this gut feeling that he's hiding something from me.

A couple of days ago, him and his sister came over to my house to hang out. The usual happened but something really touched me later that day. We were all discussing why I had transfered schools two years ago and he said "if she hadn't transfered, then my life would be sad".

Lately it's been on my mind and I can't help wondering what it meant. I know I should keep it to myself (knowing I would be too nosy and whatnot). I honestly have no idea what I should do. Should I get over him and how?

Signed: Misunderstood

Dear Misunderstood,

From what I can gather from your email, it appears as if you both have very mixed feelings about being more than friends.

Since you stated in your letter that when you asked him about his feelings towards you he openly admitted to only wanting to be friends, I think you should go ahead and take the same route.

I know that might sound a bit strange given the fact that I opened this reply with the observation that you both appear to have mixed feelings regarding being just friends or something more, but here is why I think taking the "friend" route is the best way to go.

You see, if he is a solid friend and you really do like being around him, you are taking a huge risk if you guys get romantically involved.

If you are both unsure about the relationship and quickly head for the bedroom door and things don't work out, you will probably lose him as a lover and a friend.

With that said, there may be a light at the end of the tunnel for you guys after all.

If you go the friend route and you two truly do have strong romantic feelings for one another, there is no doubt in my mind, as long as you two stay close and continue to be friends, those feelings will surface.

If those feelings do finally surface, they will probably surface after you both have dated other people, but somehow always found yourself back in each other’s company.

Good Luck,
The Reply Guy